Surrendering to the Season I'm in by Nathifa Sligh
On March 24, I give birth to a beautiful baby boy. He really is beautiful. I call him my little cuddle bug. This kid loves to cuddle. And of course, I love every minute of it. My delivery went great. My husband was excited about our newest addition. When my older son came for a visit, he was so in awe of his little brother. It was such a pleasure to introduce big brother to little brother. He asked me so many questions about his baby brother or as he calls him, his baby. We were all just in a state of joy! As I looked at my three boys (my husband included), it hit me that we were now a family of four. A family of four.
At the time, I didn’t even understand what that really meant for me. All I thought was that we’d take the baby home and I’d go back to doing everything I did before without any issue. I would return to my normal life. The life where I had time to jump on the highway and be an art show gypsy. You know the life where you go and sell your wares at art fairs, craft shows, barn sales, and vintage markets all over the place? Yeah, that one. I also just knew that I would have all the energy in the world to stay up late and make all the pretty things. I mean, that’s what I did before. I even decided to have a full-fledged solo art show. Because you know, this baby wasn’t going to keep me from living the life I was creating for myself.
Over the course of the next few months, I tried my hardest to maintain the lifestyle I’d had before. Making products for my business, running my business, trying to still be an art show gypsy, being a domestic goddess (of course!), serving in church, and also working a full time job! Pretty much doing all the things or as my husband would say, doing too much. And I was tired. Boy, was I tired. I found myself trying to figure out why everything wasn’t flowing like it used to. Why didn’t I feel at peace with my life? It was like, there was this constant force pushing me to keep trying to do. Keep up the pace. Keep moving forward. Don’t ask for help because you can do it. You are strong. Keep up the pace girl. All those other businesses are getting ahead of you. Keep going. Keep going. Keep going. Sigh.
I started to talk to God about this situation I was finding myself in. I’d pray, "Lord, what’s going on? What am I so tired? Why isn’t my business flowing like it used to?" The Holy Spirit reminded of something: seasons. He started to speak to my spirit about surrendering to the season I was in.
The Bible says in Ecclesiates 3:1-8:
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
Reading those words settled my spirit. I started to get it. I had been fighting this beautiful season I was in. Rather than sowing into this new season, I was mourning and trying to reap from an old one. That realization helped me to understand that it’s okay to take break and relax. It’s okay to ask people to help you. It’s okay to enjoy your current season because before too long, it will be long gone and you will be living in a new one.
NATHIFA SLIGH is an artist, jewelry designer, and the founder of Juicy Christians. Originally from Monrovia, Liberia, she now lives in Southwest Michigan with her husband and two awesome little boys. You can connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter or the Juicy Christians website.